Being Mindful Of Making Loving Requests Not Demands

What we communicate has 3 inherent Elements.

the content, the emotional tone, and the implicit statement about the nature of the relationship. We tend to putting the most attention on crafting the content, but it’s usually the emotional tone and message about the relationship that have the most impact.

If you say something in the forms of a command such as - answer the phone, give me that, you must.., etc this is implies you get to order around the relationship and this goes for parenting also.

This upsets most people as it makes them feel bossed around and can’t take it in and makes it harder for the issue your trying to resolve. On the other hand, asking instead of demanding keeps the focus on the topic your raising rather then triggering a side issue, and it minimises power struggles.

It acknowledges and accepts what is true.